更新时间:2010-12-22

相思成灾:真爱是什么？

随着jacks羊水破了，人们朝着医院的方向赶去的时候，字幕打出来，音乐声响起，电影结束了。一部电影，怎样算优秀，怎样算作不好，见仁见智的。有的人爱喜剧片、有的人爱剧情片、有的人爱爱情片、有人爱恐怖片、有人爱枪战片。萝卜白菜，各有所爱。作为一个伪文艺青年，我讨厌恐怖片、讨厌枪战片犯罪片，还是把最经典的《教父》系列看完了，经典之所以为经典，有它存在的道理。诸如此类我不是很爱的电影，看过，也就算了。纯粹的视觉听觉享受，消化的东西，大抵只是饭后的谈资罢了。

之前看过一本书，告诉我们要怎样看电影——从故事结构、从主演以及配角角度，从摄影师角度、从导演角度、从电影背景角度以及音乐角度等等方面来看这部电影。更有书籍指出，要对电影进行赏析，要从题材和主题、剧作结构分析、表演风格、摄影、声音、剪辑、创作背景这些方面来鉴赏。我非专业的影评写手，有时候有点懒惰，内心里激起千层浪潮，笔下不曾耕耘。想写下的，只是一些琐碎的理解而已。

《相思成灾》这部电影，和《BJ单身日记》、《真爱至上》一样，都属于我喜欢的风格，这部片子里有好几个细节，是我最喜欢的。那个心理学家打了一个比方——用放屁来比喻恋情进行的阶段，这个桥段差点没把我笑死，看似恶俗，说的却是大实话。——the stages of a relationship can be defined by farting. Stages 1 is the conspiracy of silence, this is a fantasy period where both parties pretend that they have no bodily waste. This illusion is very quickly shattered by that first shy ‘ooh did you fart?’ follower by the sheepish admission of truth. This heralds a period of deeper intimacy. A Period I like to call the fart honeymoon where both parties find each other’s gas juts the cutest thing in the world. But of course no honeymoon can last forever. Either the fart loses its power to amuse and embarrass, thereby signifying true love or else, it begins to annoy and disgust. Thereby symbolizing all that is blocked and rancid in the formerly beloved.时刻在想，这样通俗的比喻，兴许可以解释一段爱情里的相识、相知、相爱的过程。

电影最后的一段话，句子很优美，真爱是什么，真爱就是——Maybe true love is a decision. A decision to take a chance with somebody, to give to somebody, without worrying whether they’ll give anything back, or if they gonna hurt you, or if they really are the one, maybe love isn’t something that happens to you, maybe it’s something you have to choose.

True love is a process not an event. 确实是，真爱是一个过程而不仅仅是结果。