“You asked what I thought I did wrong. I f**ked up, obviously. I shouldn’t have done any of it. I didn’t want to be this person. I didn’t want to hurt anyone. I didn’t want people to think I was the kind of person that could hurt someone. And now one of those women is dead, Hannah Shoenfeld. And that should have never happened, obviously. That’s just... I was just self-absorbed and ignorant, and I thought it’s what she wanted. And if she had just been able to tell me... It’s easy to say right now, but... if you don’t believe me, then why waste a f**king second talking to me? That guy is a monster. And as bad as it was, sleeping with her wasn’t my real... wasn’t my... my worst mistake. A year ago, during the unpleasantness, I was out of my f**king mind. I was like a scared little animal just trying to claw my way back. So, my back was to the wall, and what do I do? I ask Hannah to help me, which is unbelievably stupid. But I did. I showed up on her doorstep, and I ask for her help. And she told me how she felt. And she told me how the situation had hurt her. And it was so obvious, the amount of pain she was in in that moment. But I still couldn’t see. I didn’t understand why she felt that way. And I pressed harder... and I said horrible things. And that is to me... That’s my real crime. Because I can’t write it off as ignorance. I knew what I was doing, and I did it anyway.”

以上是Mitch的confession，可这一切Hannah都听不到了。Mitch说他从未想伤害别人，他的初衷也不是希望Hannah落得如此下场，但事情就是发生了。他为了满足自己的私欲，为了一时的快感，犯下了无法挽回的错误。伤害已经造成，他却在这个女孩离世之前没有意识到自己错了。有时候只有失去一条人命才能让一个糊涂的人清醒，也只有一个灵魂的离去才能唤醒一个装睡的人。

我为什么一直觉得closure很重要，因为有些事不是说放下就能放下的。有些道歉必须亲口说出，有些伤害必须亲自补偿。你需要让对方知道你做错了，因为往往受害者会掉进自我谴责自我反省的漩涡，迫害者需要站出来讲明是自己错了。原谅与否则是自己的选择，Hannah的父亲不会原谅，Hannah的朋友不会原谅。

但说到底，我想我们都值得一个closure。去骂去打那个伤害了你的人，去向那个被你伤害的人道歉坦白承认之前的一切，在一切还来得及的时候。

Make amends while you still can.