适合无事的某个闲暇段看看，并不太强烈表达什么，看看生活。
影片讲一对夫妇失去一个四岁儿子后的生活，亲人，朋友，同是天涯沦落人的人，各种差异。
Becca和她的妈妈Nat在整理小男孩的遗物,她们的对话。Becca妈妈Nat说，她失去Arhtur(即Becca的兄弟)时，她的朋友M总是在她家呆着。M说要帮她分担痛苦，而妈妈说，你说要帮我分担痛苦，但我不见你走时带走任何悲伤。事实上你就带走了我做的肉桂包子。
-You remember Maureen Bailey?
-Yeah.
-well,I couldn't get rid of her after your brother passed away.She was always at the house.
-Yeah,I remember that.
-Yeah,well,you know,I never had a moment to myself.So finally,in the middle of coffe one afternoon,I said "Maureen, why are you always here?"
-And what'd she say?
-She said,I want to be there,Nat.I want to share in your grief. And I said ,Well, it's not working. You plant your fat ass in that chair every fricking day.
-You did not say that?
-I did.
-Mom!
-I did say that.
-You said "fat ass"?
-I said, She sucks all my coffe. And I don't see you leaving with any of this alleged grief you're sharing. In fact,the only thing you do take out of here are my cinnamon buns.So I never saw her again,obviouly.
-Oh,my God,I can't believe you said that.
-I feel guilty now.
-You do not.
-I do.
-You're right.I don't miss her at all.
这让我想起，亦舒的《喜宝》里说，
我其实并没有朋友。因为不相信有朋友这回事。如果我与韩国泰先生只是朋友关系，他不会自动替我付账单。如果朋友不能在现实生活中帮助我，要他们来做什么？你不是想告诉我，一个“朋友”对着我念念有词地安慰我十个小时，我的难题就会得到解决吧？
朋友只能偶然在心情好的时候带我去看一场戏，吃一顿饭，这有啥意思，我不是一个八岁的孩子——一只玩具熊、一杯冰激淋都能令我雀跃，不不，我惯于寂寞。
你看，Becca的妈妈最后说，You are right.I don't miss her at all.我一点也不想念她。
-Does it ever go away?
-No.I don't think it does.Not for me,it hasn't.It's going on 11 years. It changes,though.
-How?
-I don't know. The weight of it,I guess.At some point,it becomes bearable. It turns into something that you can crawl out from under and carry around like a brick in your pocket.And you even forget it for a while,but then you reach in for whatever reason,and there it is. "Oh,Right,that." Which can be awful. But not all the time. It's kind of···Not that you like it,exactly,but it's what you've got instead of your son. So, you carry it around. And it doesn't go away. Which is···
-Which is what?
-Fine,actually.
这些悲伤会过去吗。不会，它已陪伴我十一年了，但它会变。好像压力变小了，在某些时候，它变得可以承受。你可以从它的阴影里爬出来，然后把它当成砖头放在口袋里。有时候你也能忘了它的存在，但是你会不小心又碰到它，发现它的存在，想，哦，原来在那。
我觉得生活里的悲伤，痛楚，都是这样的。从未消失，变得可承受又不可承受。
影片有一个镜头写丈夫Howie去找那个女人，那个一起参加自持小组抚平失去孩子伤痛的女人。后来Howie在那个女人的房子门口看着她，却立即回家找Becca. 终是未出轨，蛮感动的。
还有那个男孩的漫画，也很温馨。
我觉得整个故事架构很美。Becca失去了儿子，Becca的妈妈也曾失去过儿子，而Becca的妹妹的肚子在此时却孕育了一个新生命。很容易在各种生活小场景里造成差异与冲突。那个校车上的男孩出现时，我开始以为是与Becca的儿子长得很像，Becca迷住了，可是不是，那个男孩是肇事者，在一场意外的车祸里，导致了Becca 的小男孩的死亡。那个男孩的漫画，漫画里一场兔子洞的美丽寻找。
推荐大家看。
Nicole很美，我惊讶于她1米8的个子。
PS:我是在夏奈君的某一篇日记里，看见她说她看兔子洞里看到的一段话：
“他们不会消失，但会随着时间的流逝而慢慢改变；有时候，你会觉得自己好像忘记他们了，可是某个时刻他们又会突然浮现；继而你的心会一沉，但你不会一直沉溺下去；慢慢的，你会觉得，其实还好；这种无能为力的悲伤，其实也还可以撑过去。”
而触动去看的这部电影。
生活总是有很多潜意识的东西，你总是意识不到，或者意识到了也无法明确具体地表达好，然后在你看见这样的话的时候，想，
“Oh, Right,that.”
我还是要吐槽写影评，不能贴电影中的照片，不开心。
