第一天，挑战自己的第一步非常简单：虽然爱的沟通方法有很多，我们的言语却往往反应出我们的心态，明天，下定决心不要对你的配偶说任何负面的话，如果脾气上来，就选择什么也不说，闭嘴沉默总好过说出你会后悔的话，要快快的听、慢慢的说，慢慢地动怒……
Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our hearts.It is better to hold your tongue than say something that you will regret.Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry.
It is difficult to demonstrate love when you feel little to no motivation. But love in its truest sense is not based on feelings but a determination to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward.In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse today,do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
Whatever you put your time, energy and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you're not investing in. Along with refraining from any negative comments, buy your wife something that says you were thinking of her today.
卡雷委屈之极，好不容易迈出的第一步竟然被这么轻易地否定，诚然，他做得还不够好，甚至有些敷衍了事，但毕竟这是他婚后第一次愿意努力付出自己的诚意。巨大的挫败感把他带进深深的绝望中，此时，他已经进行了三周了，在过去的三周内，他为凯瑟琳洗车、换机油、打扫房间，尽一切可能讨好她，表达自己的诚意，可是凯瑟琳不仅不领会他的好意，还一而再再而三地把他的尊严和感情轻易地践踏在脚下，他几乎要放弃，可是想到对父亲的40天之承诺，他说服自己，继续尝试那看似不可能存在的希望。他颇费心思地为凯瑟琳准备烛光晚餐，却听到凯瑟琳看着他的眼睛一字一句地说：“I do not love you。”
那一段经典的英文台词，实在是不忍心落下：
If I haven't told you that you are a good man, you are. And if I haven't told you that I have forgiven you, I have. And if I haven't told you that I love you, I do. Is it too late to ask you to grow old with me?
（如果我没告诉过你，说你是个好人，你的确是；如果我没告诉过你，说我已经原谅你，我是原谅了；如果我没告诉过你，说我爱你，我是爱你的。现在要你一起陪我变老，会不会太迟？）
